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5 Men Who Were ‘Friendzoned’ Share What Helped Them Fall Out Of Love & (Finally) Move On
Once you start having a crush on someone, there is always a possibility of being friendzoned by that person which, if it happens, hurts more than a breakup, to be honest. You don’t only lose a possible romantic relationship but also the friendship you’ve built with that person.
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Moreover, while in a breakup you mostly start keeping your distance, this is not always the case in the friendzone.
You always nurture this hope that maybe one day you’ll get out of it and that’s why you stick around, only to see them going out with other people and hurting yourself more in the process.
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It’s definitely not an easy task to move on from a relationship that you never had or a girl you love who doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, but the sooner you realise that it is important for you to get over her, the better.
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It has happened to almost everyone and some who managed to fall out of love and move on (not out) from a friendzone situation shared some pearls of wisdom.
Here are some tips on how to get over someone who friendzoned you and move on, for real:
1. Focus On Yourself
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“I feel like your priority is to improve your self-esteem and your mental health first before her.
Focus on improving yourself through exercise, videos about self-improvement (how to be caring, more confident, more social, etc.), your clothing style, your looks and more.” –Reddit User.
2. Know Your Priorities With That Person
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“Is there a solid friendship there independent of your romantic interest in her? I’m in a similar situation myself. There’s a girl I love very much that I could see myself being either friends or in a relationship with. We’ve been friends for a while. I told her she should consider dating me. She said no. We’re still good friends because there’s a solid friendship there and I wasn’t just waiting in the wings to try and get in her pants.” –Quora User
3. Cut Her Off, If You Need To
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“Just disconnect yourself slowly and surely. Get away for a bit. Keep reminding yourself you’re just friends with her. If you could set her up with someone you know so you can turn on that she’s a girl with a boyfriend mode unless that hurts too bad. Then go with disconnect.” –Reddit User.
4. Keep Yourself Busy
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“Distract yourself with video games with online friends (my preferred method lol) You don’t necessarily have to reach out every time to help her. Just let her know that you’re there and available to listen.” –Reddit User.
5. Get Back In The Dating Game
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“If you are getting dates or hanging out with other friends, the friend who friendzoned you becomes second priority. The point is to not let a friendzone keep you from enjoying your life and dating and possibly starting a life with someone else.” –Quora User.