Desis Share How Moving Out Of Their Parents’ Home Made Them More Responsible & Independent

In the West, children move out of their homes as soon as they turn 18 and go off to college. For them, if you are still living with your parents when you are in your 20s, it means you have hit rock bottom. 

However, in India, parents show their kids the movie Baghban every once in a while so that their children don’t leave them alone, EVER or at least feel guilty about it.

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However, once you move out of the house, you realise that your relationship with your parents actually gets better and it’s certainly beneficial for your personal growth. 

You are forced to do your own chores, become financially independent and fight your own battles. 

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It’s a big scary world out there and living in a bubble wrap doesn’t help. 

Desi young adults who moved out of their parents’ house and started living alone shared how it helped them to become more independent and responsible. 

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The Twitter discussion started when author Varun Mayya wrote, “Unpopular opinion: young adults should not be living with their parents or at least live outside for a few years. There’s immense value in learning how to do the dishes, wash your clothes and be responsible for yourself.”

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People could relate and many shared how it was the best decision of their lives as well. 

The greatest value is them learning to make their own decisions… and deal with the consequences. Where they go in life ultimately comes down to the decisions they make, and the judgement they develop. They can’t really build this skill in the parent “bubble wrap” zone at home.

— Ajay Kumar (@ajakum) August 9, 2021

100% on this, not just clothes and responsibility.
Living with my best friends, I’ve learnt about my flaws,

Through the next 3 months, I’ll grow to form better relationships with them and others, which is really valuable to me.

— Naman Hajela (@HajelaNaman) August 9, 2021

However, there were some who opposed the idea and said that being independent and responsible has nothing to do with living alone. It comes from taking up house duties and skills that you learn in childhood. 

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Many argued that while women are taught house chores from a young age, men are not and that’s why they have to learn to be responsible once they don’t have their moms and sisters at their beck and call. 

One shouldn’t have to wait to do the dishes or wash clothes until moving out. These are everyday mundane tasks that keeps one’s life comfortable, and hence needs to learn/taught to do from a young age.

— Sandhya (@evevjn) August 9, 2021

However, adulting is not just about doing the dishes and paying your bills. Of course, you can learn to do these things while living with your parents.

It’s more about surviving the real world, discovering yourself and getting out of your comfort zone which is only possible when you live alone. 

I would +1 @VarunMayya opinion. Have been away from parents during college days. Other than learning chores, being away helps you to identify yourself and also in becoming independent. You begin to see the world void of your parents influence and thus create a identity

— Nischit Shetty (@nischitcodes) August 8, 2021

Do you agree with this?